Monday, February 22, 2010

Hoo-has and Mantras

I love this picture. It always makes me laugh. Here is beautiful Sophia Loren looking jealously (at least I think that's what the photographer wants you to think) at Jayne Mansfield's hoo-has. Yes, Sophia, she might look more buxom in her dress than you do, but personally I think you are prettier. Because beauty (or good art or quality entertainment!) is a matter of opinion. Lucky for us, especially as writers and readers, that personal tastes breed diversity.

My laptop wallpaper has a heading across the top that reads, "I am only limited by my own insecurities." It has sort of become my mantra since whenever I fail to try something new, it's because I'm insecure with my own abilities. I think I cannot accomplish such a task. I cannot write that one hard story, I can't learn that one difficult skill or technique. When really, if I would put forth my best effort and take the time to develop the proper tools, I can do whatever I set my mind to. Like the old adage, if there's a will, there's a way.

And I've learned the hard way the worst damage you can do is compare yourself to others. Be your own level of best. Because, Sophia, you needn't have worried, honey. Even at seventy-five you're a bombshell.

A friend sent this to me last week. It goes along with what I'm getting at and I hope it brightens your day like it did mine!

'May today there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others.
May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.
May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.
It is there for each and every one
of us.' ~ Author Unknown


  1. Beautiful. This is a recurring theme around the blogosphere today - I'm loving it. Thanks for a great piece of Monday inspiration. :)

  2. I love that! It's so positive and it's very true what you said; we're only limited by our own insecurities. Here's to a great new week!

  3. I read an interview with Sophia Loren, who said that at the time, she felt sorry for Jayne Mansfield for wearing that kind of dress. Sophia got the impression that she was forced to keep that bombshell image. If that's the case, then Sophia Loren knew she didn't have to spill out of her dress to get attention.

    I agree that we should appreciate what we were born with, and go from there. You're a talented writer, Jackee. Don't let those insecurities get to you!

  4. Steph: Absolutely to a new week! Inspiration by perspiration.

    Theresa: LOL! I totally had to Google this and you're right--it's Jayne Mansfield! Apparently I'm not the only one who has made this mistake because I found it on a mythbusters site, people always think it's Marilyn. Thanks for fixing that and for the story, and for the pep talk. You are a Godsend!

  5. Oh, that picture made me laugh. Thanks for an inspirational post. I loved that quote at the end.

  6. I had the pleasure of seeing Sophia Loren a few years ago and couldn't believe how stunning she still looks. An amazing beauty then and now.
    I love your thoughts in this post. It is hard sometimes to be content and secure, but it brings freedom.

  7. Her expression is hilarious, and I don't think she looks jealous.

    Thanks for the little bit of inspiration this afternoon!

  8. Shannon: Just came from your blog. We're all on the same wave length!

  9. Angie: You're welcome. I loved that quote too!

    Tricia: Lucky! She's always been one of my favorite actresses. Her and Grace Kelly.

    Myrna: Perhaps a little judgemental, then? You're welcome.

  10. Very beautiful thoughts--thank you for sharing. I love the mantra that we are only limited by our own insecurities. Painful, but very true!

  11. Jackee, the fact that a lot of people confuse her with Marilyn Monroe just proves your point. Let's be unique instead of some cookie-cutter image we think we're expected to be. xo

  12. Beautiful sentiment. I always thought Sophia was converned Jayne was about to pop out.

  13. Great mantra! I may just have to highjack it now and again :)

    Love the quote at the end as well!

  14. Danyelle: Painful, yes. But it helps me to remember why I should always try.

    Theresa: I love originality and breaking molds (as you probably know by now)!

    Holly: Theresa said this too! It makes me like her all the more to know that she was thinking about Jayne's welfare rather than being upstaged by her.

    Jemi: Please help yourself, by all means!

  15. Ah, this is the hardest thing for me. Not only as a woman, but as a writer. I try to remind myself that every journey is different and no one can take mine, so I can't take theirs. Sometimes it works. :)

  16. I love this pic. and the post's message. if only i could get my irrational mind to respond to this rational way of's a daily struggle!

  17. That picture makes me laugh, too! I've never seen it before - thanks for sharing. And thanks for the reminder about not comparing ourselves to other - so true!

  18. Great thoughts here. When we do our very best, really become what we want to be, the pieces have a way of falling into place.

  19. Elana: Well said! I have to remember that always too, but I like the way you've put it. I also try to remind myself that I'm only looking at a person I deem as successful at one point in their lives. We all have our ups and downs and life is one long process where we meet eachother at different stages of failure, success, happiness, and sadness. There, I've had my somber moment of the day!

    SB: That's why it's a mantra for me--to keep my irrationality from overpowering my rational(ity?) I have to repeat it often. LOL!

    Susan: You're so welcome. :)

    Joanne: Thanks for that thought! Providence or luck, I guess it all just works out as long as we're ready when it arrives, eh?

  20. It looks like Jayne was about to have a wardrobe malfunction.
    It's a good reminder to keep your eyes off others and concentrate on your own assets! LOL!

    I love you mantra about putting aside your insecurities. A good one to keep in mind. And the bit of inspiration at the end was beautiful.


  21. Jackee--Please forgive me! I just sent you a post that was meant for Joany. I just wrote a post, on my blog, linking the ten people who signed up under my name. I was checking that the 5 who Mark granted a chat with knew about it. I am so sorry I couldn't just delete my comment. Please forgive me!!!!! and thank you for giving me credit when you joined his blog. He'll be having another contest during the first week in April.

  22. No problem, Sharon. And you are welcome to the credit. Good luck on the interview!

  23. I love the phrase, "Let this knowledge settle into your bones." It's one thing to read inspirational words, another to really make them your own. Thanks for the lovely reminder.

  24. Jackee--I really do feel bad. If you need a pair of fresh eyes to critique ten pages or so, let me know...

  25. Love this post!!! LOL! I have always loved that picture... it is such a girl thig to never be satisfied by how awesome we really are!

  26. AWESOME! I love your mantra too. I need to remember that.

  27. Carla: I guess that is what Sophia is worried about, the original Janet Jackson mistake. LOL! Thanks for stopping by and for following!

    Melissa: Internalizing the message just when I need it the most is the hardest part for me.

    Sharon: No worries. Honest.

    Kristi: I think some guys might do it too. Hmm... I'm going to investigate that.

    L.T.: Thank you!

    Christine: You're very welcome!