Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Living with the Guilt

Guilt. I'm loaded with it. Here are a few recent reasons why:

Honestly? I feel guilty about blogging. I feel like it’s a bit self-indulgent when I should be writing, living real life, sweeping the floor, feeding children, reading books, working at the soup kitchen, volunteering at the library, earning a living, annnnndddd...

the list goes on. Not necessarily in order of importance. It’s a great source guilt, as it might be to you as well. But does anyone have reasons that make them feel better about being on here instead of all these other places? I could really use your justifications, friends. To use for my own peace of mind, not to judge or anything. So, please pass them on!

Then there’s another source of guilt… I’ve some great awards I haven’t even acknowledged!
A big thanks to Miss Ali for The Lovely Blog Award. It’s so nice and it totally made my day! (Though she gave it to me a month ago….)

Thank you to Myrna, Bec, and Medeia for The Versatile Blogger Award. It took me so long to post it that I feel bad I received it three times! My bad! (But I’m grateful all the same for their thoughtfulness.)
Seven things about me go with this one:
1. My favorite writing advice: Don’t be afraid to throw in the towel. If you have a true writer’s heart, you’ll pick up the towel when the time is right. Writers are never able to stay away from writing for long.
2. I live on 2.5 acres and have 13 chickens. I like the idea of being a farm girl, but not enough to have to live with all the literal crap that comes with it.
3. I don’t consider myself a writer of historical fiction or fantasy. Instead I always say I write adventure and go wherever the setting takes me. The adventure is what appeals to me first in any kind of writing (even nonfiction).
4. I think energence should be a word. Doesn’t it sound cool and full of possibility???
5. I’m married to a guy with a PhD in biochemical engineering. His cranium is disproportionately larger than his body. But instead of making him look wonky, I think it’s endearing. :o)
6. I gain and lose 55/60 lbs with every baby. That means with all three of my kids I’ve had to gain then lose that much. Still working on the last 15 from baby #3… who’ll be one on August 10th.
7. It bugs me when people say “random” because to a biologist or a statistician, random means TRUE RANDOM (i.e. governed by or involving equal chances for each of the actual or hypothetical members of a population). Usually people are referring to what is in fact, NOT random but arbitrary (i.e. determined by chance, whim, or impulse, and not by necessity, reason, or principle).

I’m going to pass these on to my newest friends, Take one or both, please:
Yvonne Osbourne, the great host of The Festival of Trees
Dana Chabino, the beautiful painter
Jill Kemerer, the beach writer
E. Elle, the writer at the Funhouse
Miss Ali, the lovely blogger herself
Sandy Shin, the dreamer, writer, and one of the best commentors
Nicole McDonald, the kiwi writer who needs no rescuing

And my last source of guilt?

I never had a 200 follower contest and I haven’t had a giveaway since June 1st. I would say it’s about time for some fun! (At any rate, I’m so close to 1,000 followers that we’ve GOT to celebrate! Right, Sharon? Ha, ha.)

Look for the par-tay Monday or Tuesday!


  1. I have guilt over blogging too, so I don't think I can help you there. I do enjoy reading your blog though. :o)

  2. I think we need to put into blogging what we are comfortable with. Family and writing needs to come first. I think if a book is about to hit the shelves that's different though. I think bloggers feel this esp. during the summer when kids are home from school and time is short!

  3. Congratulations on your awards, and thank you so much for awarding me! Your comment makes me glow. :)

    I can definitely understand: I feel guilty about blogging and all the time I spend online as well. All of my justifications seem weak, even in my head; however, I think it's therapeutic, especially as I'm very much an introvert, and I've learned so much from the blogging community that it's completely worth it. :)

  4. I understand the guilt over blogging. But don't forget it is suppose to be fun . And I think it is okay to have lots of fun in ones life :)

  5. I feel so guilty whenever I am online. Blogging, tweeting, etc. However, I think the connections we make to other mothers and writers makes us better mothers in the long run.

    There is so much to feel guilty about as a mother...

    Thank you so much for stopping by my blog! :)

  6. thanks so much awarding me you lovely lady! so glad i found you blog! yes i feel guilty too, but i wouldnt give this world up- you guys are my support system! xx

  7. Justifying blogging?!?!
    IT'S FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's addictive fun. I look forward to everyone's blog pieces and photos and stories and anything they care to blog about!!

    Congratulations with your blog awards!!! And I'm so glad to learn you have 13 chickens! :-)

    take care

  8. Congrats to the winners, and congrats to you!!!

    I have guilt over blogging as well so don't feel to bad. I've tried to spend less time on it, give myself a bit more structure but some days I can't help myself and indulge... is that so wrong?


  9. I get award guilt, too :) As for blogging, it's my favored method of author promotion. I'd rather do this than other things and an author has to promote so there. I avoid the guilt by saying it's for my career lol! But I'm constantly working on the balance because social media can take too much time.

  10. I do like "energence". And #7 kind of makes you a nerd, but an endearing one ;-)

    As for blog guilt - I've got none. I love it here. It's "me" time. And I think it should be "Jackee" time too!

  11. Blogging helps me stay in sync with the writing community. It also develops a network of people I can count on if I need them to help with something. I mention how many followers I have in my query letter sometimes just to show agents that I'm actively involved online.

  12. Congrats to the winners!

    I'm with you on the guilt about blogging. I feel that all the time!

  13. There's always guilt - I feel guilty if I don't keep up with every blog post.

    But, like Aubrie, I like the way blogging keeps me connected with other writers.

    I like the sound of your farm :)

  14. Once I had my first baby, I felt guilty about everything. EVERYTHING.

    One gets used to the guilt, I suppose.

  15. All of this guilt?! Stop it now!

    I feel guilty when I blog instead of writing, write instead of cleaning, put CO2 in the air by breathing, snap at my kids, lose touch with a friend, don't exercise... The list goes on!

    Oh, and I need to have a 200 followers contest too. I've been holding off, deciding if I'm combining it into an Aura serial launch.

    Losing those pounds after a baby are hard. You're almost there!

  16. Awesome! Congrats on all the awards.

    I have to admit, I feel a little guilty about the bloggy thing too. But all my kids are asleep right now, so it's good at this moment. =)

  17. Guilt?? No!

    1. It's my version of record keeping...meaning someday my kids will look back on it and reminisce about their wonderful childhood (haha)...or that there were many sides to their "mom"
    2. It's keeps me sane. To be a good mom, you always need some sort of outlet (time for yourself)...whether it's exercise, or reading, or...blogging :)

    And especially for you:
    3. You always have things to say that inspire and help people, so not only does your blogging give you an outlet help you, but quite often it helps your readers too!

  18. It's easy to feel guilty about blogging, but I remind myself that I've learned soooo much from other bloggers and enjoyed their company. And that is time well spent.
    Congrats on your awards and 200+ followers!

  19. You feel guilty if you do blog and you feel guilty if you don't. All I can say is that I'm working on a book that was commissioned as a direct result of one of my blogs. I rest my case.

  20. new favorite word.

    Stop feeling guilty. You can only do what you can do.

    Do you name your chickens?


  21. Thank you, Jackee! I'm taking the first one since I've already received the Versatile Blogger Award (three times, like you). :o)

  22. Thank you for the award! You are not alone on the guilt and baby-poundage. I gained almost 50 pounds with each kid!

    But I've heard a few agents say to schedule social networking time. And I also just read an article that pushed writers to blog. So don't feel guilty. It's part of the job!

  23. Don't feel guilty. Through blogging you'll receive wonderful writing advice and tips, as well as contest wins if you enter giveaways. And whether you're published or unpublished, you're making valuable connections. Congrats on the awards.

  24. Hello! New follower here from Sharon's blog. I also work in the wildlife field - I'm an Officer in Canada.
    I'm also a writer. Glad I found your blog!

  25. First, congrats on 200+ followers! Woohoo!

    I'm totally with you on the guilt over blogging. I've always felt awkward talking/writing about myself... hence I write fiction. The main reason I'm doing it is because my editor suggested it. I'm still getting used to it, but have found that it opens up a world of connections with other writers whom I probably wouldn't know otherwise. So, that's definitely a great reason for blogging.

    Congrats on your awards! I love your seven facts and am slightly jealous of your 2.5 acres & 13 chickens. I've always wanted to live on a mini farm. :)

  26. Congratulations on your awards!

    I can feel the guilt of blogging too, like on days when I blog more than work on my book... And energence is a cool word! It can be a new dictionary entry one day if you work at it. :]