It seems as though a lot of writers I cyber-know had books just debut or soon will this coming year. Those lovely copyright symbols will be followed by a 2010 or a 2011. I’m happy for them. Really! But for a milli-moment I admit it makes me… wistful. Honestly, I thought Courtesy and Patience would be with an agent by now. That hasn’t happened and after the momentary sigh, I suck up my selfishness and remember a very important thing about life:
Not one single person on this beautiful earth follows the same path. My life path is not your life path. My publishing path is not your path.
This is kind of an embarrassing and personal story, but I’m going to share it anyway:
You YA writers have probably heard of a book called The Duff by Kody Keplinger. I (anonymously) followed (Okay, fine. Cyber-stalked. Whatever. No need to split hairs.) Kody’s journey because we both submitted to her now agent the same day. While she signed with said agent over the weekend and then turned around to sell the book within DAYS (or something wonderful like that) of signing, I waited a few grueling months to hear from the agent. When she got back to me, it was a revision request. Great! I appreciated the opportunity to learn something. It still ended up a sweet and sincerely regretful no. Now, I don’t hold this experience against Kody or the agent at all. Instead I’m telling you this story to illustrate what a stupidhead I was to compare myself against another. (Yes, I occasionally call myself a stupidhead. Occasionally.) I’m not Kody and though I’m sure she’s amazing, I’m okay with not being her. I know she and the agent are destined for great things, but I should have never thought my success need parallel hers.
There are great things ahead in my life too and they’re there for my discovery. Mine alone.
Life doesn’t always happen the way we envision it, but once we look back we see that it has become much more than what we could comprehend at the time. We become who we are because of the experiences we have encountered along the way. At this point in my life I’m just grateful—if nothing else—to say that I at least got that funny, little book to the one (different than Kody’s) agent I thought was unattainable, one that only takes referrals. And I’m grateful to say that I know so many wonderful writers who are about to be published. Or already are. Step up and take the spotlight. Truly, with all my heart, I’m happy for you. You have each and everyone earned it. I’m waiting impatiently to read your lovely books!
And speaking of friend’s books I’m impatient for…
Talli Roland’s SPLASH into the rom-com world is soon at hand. Please help her prove that an Indie book can take over the jungle that is Amazon by clicking HERE. Good luck, Talli!