Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Being a Follower
As a blogger, have you ever felt the hurt of someone unfollowing your blog? If you’re like me, you felt rejected, unliked, and then guilty for feeling that way over something as “trivial” as a loss of a follower. Or at least I know many of my friends have felt this way of late. (I even see it on facebook statuses.) And I know I feel that way. I admit it.
Though it doesn’t necessarily mean I don’t have something interesting to say, I take it as such anyway. I automatically think it was something I said or didn’t do. I feel like I’ve let them down.
Though some people only follow blogs when they want to be notified of every new post, following a blog means something different to me.
When I click on that follow button it means, “I support you. I support this little space of internet you’ve made for yourself. It doesn’t mean I’ll get to reading you all the time, or comment all the time. Or that I expect you to be able to do the same for me either. But if time allows, I like to read what you have to say.”
Now I can’t get to all 483 blogs I follow, but that doesn’t mean I don’t support them. Just like I can’t talk to all my friends and acquaintances in a calendar year, I still care about them. Blogging friends are priceless. And it does hurt to lose one. I accept that. I wish I could visit and leave comments all the time, but I can’t and neither can any of us. But we support each other, are here for each other.
We need each other. We need to see the words “I support you” in action. Really, following in real life is not much different than following in the blog world.
Writing, trying to get published, and putting yourself out there is hard enough, blogging shouldn’t add to our wilting morale … but that’s just my opinion….
Q4U: What does following mean to you? (Feel free to disagree with me.)